how does hedda gabler relate to other people?

Hedda's character is condescending, rude, and manipulative. She marries to please society, but does little else for anyone outside of herself. Thus, her husband serves as little more than an escort, and her entertainments are found elsewhere.

In a conversation with the Judge, he mentions Hedda's love for her husband.

BRACK.:

Not even—the specialist one happens to love?

HEDDA.:

Faugh—don't use that sickening word!

Hedda's flirtation with the Judge:

BRACK.:

All I require is a pleasant and intimate interior, where I can make

myself useful in every way, and am free to come and go as—as a

trusted friend—-

HEDDA.:

Of the master of the house, do you mean?

BRACK.:

[Bowing.] Frankly—of the mistress first of all; but of course of

the master too, in the second place. Such a triangular friendship—

if I may call it so—is really a great convenience for all the

parties, let me tell you.

HEDDA.:

Yes, I have many a time longed for some one to make a third on our

travels. Oh—those railway-carriage _tete-a-tetes_—-!

Rudeness and sarcasm:

HEDDA.:

[Holds out her hand.] Good morning, dear Miss Tesman! So early a

call! That is kind of you.

Hedda Gabler wants to keep control over other people. The whole story rounds on her play of power. While she can control Lovborg and other people, she stays calm and cold. But as she feels some one has entered her domain, she ruins everything. She just destroyed the book because it was a symbol of Thea's control over Lovborg (another woman was controlling her man and that was unbearable). At last she finds no choice in her life. She HAD to obey the judge man and this is not the way she lives. So, she prefers to find another thing to control: her own life! She commits a suicide to keep that controlling power while living. As you may see, for Hedda the general communications are based on this cotroller-controlled relationship.