How does Dede justify her choice not to join her sister? How does she feel after giving her sister the reason?4

Dede's excuse is that she had to obey her husband. 'Back in those days, we women followed our husbands.' Such a silly excuse. After all, look at Minerva. 'Let's put it this way,' Dede adds. 'I followed my husband. I didn't get involved." She is aware that she is using it as an excuse for not supporting her sisters, something for which she still feels guilty.