Fiction

Written in 1952, Chinua Achebe's short story "Marriage is a Private Affair" is a fictional story about a Nigerian father who rejects his son's decision to marry for love instead of accepting an arranged marriage. Though the setting and cultural aspects of the story are accurate, the characters are fictional. While arranged marriages are traditional in the father's Ibo village, the son chooses to marry a non-Ibo woman he meets while living in the city of Lagos. The son holds out hope that his father, Okeke, will learn to accept his decision. However, years pass with Okeke obstinately refusing to have anything to with his son and daughter-in-law. It is only once Okeke learns he has two grandsons who want to visit him that he realizes the error of having hardened his heart against his family. After his revelation, the old man goes to sleep full of fear that he will die before he has the opportunity to make it up to his grandsons.

Exploring the conflicts between tradition and modernity, "Marriage is a Private Affair" uses the example of Okeke's obstinate insistence on arranged marriage to show the divide between the values of those living in cities and those living in villages in mid-century Nigeria. While Nene and Nnaemeka represent a youthful embrace of cosmopolitan ideals that prize individuality and love, Okeke represents a stubborn attachment to tradition. Ultimately, Okeke's refusal to adapt to the changing attitudes that arise alongside modernity leaves him isolated and embittered, and perhaps unable to pass on any of his culture and wisdom to his grandchildren.