Chapters 1-4 How did Lily's father get her to stop being angry at the boy on the playground?

Lily's parents remind her of a past experience when she was a Six and had felt out of place while visiting a different community of Sixes, and Lily decides that she now feels sorry for the Seven, who must have felt like a stranger, rather than angry at him.

Lily's father got her to stop being angry by telling her that the boy must have felt left out or different and then Lily began to feel sorry.

What feeling dis Jonas share at the evening meal