Wang Lung's attitude toward his wife.

Wang Lung chose his wife, thus, his part of the marriage was a choice. O-lan was chosen, which would mean that her part of the marriage really wasn't a choice. Irregardless, she was thrilled to be leaving life as a servant and the opportunity to have her own home and family. Both parties seem to genuinely fall in love at the beginning of their marriage, a love they sometimes forget, but onw that will cause great sorrow and guilt later in their lives. The last part of the question calls for your feelings and opinions as a reader.