MISS HOWE, TO MISS CLARISSA HARLOWE FRIDAY, MARCH 3.
I have both your letters at once. It is very unhappy, my dear, since
your friends will have you marry, that a person of your merit should
be addressed by a succession of worthless creatures, who have nothing
but their presumption for their excuse.
That these presumers appear not in this very unworthy light to some of
your friends, is, because their defects are not so striking to them as
to others.--And why? Shall I venture to tell you?--Because they are
nearer their own standard--Modesty, after all, perhaps has a concern
in it; for how should they think that a niece or sister of theirs [I
will not go higher, for fear of incurring your displeasure] should be
an angel?
But where indeed is the man to be found (who has the least share of
due diffidence) that dares to look up to Miss Clarissa Harlowe with
hope, or with any thing but wishes? Thus the bold and forward, not
being sensible of their defects, aspire; while the modesty of the
really worthy fills them with too much reverence to permit them to
explain themselves. Hence your Symmes's, your Byron's, your
Mullins's, your Wyerley's (the best of the herd), and your Solmes's,
in turn, invade you--Wretches that, looking upon the rest of your
family, need not despair of succeeding in an alliance with it--But to
you, what an inexcusable presumption!
Yet I am afraid all opposition will be in vain. You must, you will, I
doubt, be sacrificed to this odious man. I know your family. There
will be no resisting such baits as he has thrown out. O, my dear, my
beloved friend! and are such charming qualities, is such exalted
merit, to be sunk in such a marriage!--You must not, your uncle tells
your mother, dispute their authority. AUTHORITY! what a full word is
that in the mouth of a narrow-minded person, who happened to be born
thirty years before one!--Of your uncles I speak; for as to the
paternal authority, that ought to be sacred.--But should not parents
have reason for what they do?
Wonder not, however, at your Bell's unsisterly behaviour in this
affair: I have a particular to add to the inducements your insolent
brother is governed by, which will account for all her driving. You
have already owned, that her outward eye was from the first struck
with the figure and address of the man whom she pretends to despise,
and who, 'tis certain, thoroughly despises her: but you have not told
me, that still she loves him of all men. Bell has a meanness in her
very pride; that meanness rises with her pride, and goes hand in hand
with it; and no one is so proud as Bell. She has owned her love, her
uneasy days, and sleepless nights, and her revenge grafted upon her
love, to her favourite Betty Barnes--To lay herself in the power of a
servant's tongue! Poor creature!--But LIKE little souls will find one
another out, and mingle, as well as LIKE great ones. This, however,
she told the wench in strict confidence: and thus, by way of the
female round-about, as Lovelace had the sauciness on such another
occasion, in ridicule of our sex, to call it, Betty (pleased to be
thought worthy of a secret, and to have an opportunity of inveighing
against Lovelace's perfidy, as she would have it to be) told it to one
of her confidants: that confidant, with like injunctions of secrecy,
to Miss Lloyd's Harriot--Harriot to Miss Lloyd--Miss Lloyd to me--I to
you--with leave to make what you please of it.
And now you will not wonder to find Miss Bell an implacable rival,
rather than an affectionate sister; and will be able to account for
the words witchcraft, syren, and such like, thrown out against you;
and for her driving on for a fixed day for sacrificing you to Solmes:
in short, for her rudeness and violence of every kind.
What a sweet revenge will she take, as well upon Lovelace as upon you,
if she can procure her rival sister to be married to the man that
sister hates; and so prevent her having the man whom she herself loves
(whether she have hope of him or not), and whom she suspects her
sister loves!
Poisons and poniard have often been set to work by minds inflamed by
disappointed love, and actuated by revenge.--Will you wonder, then,
that the ties of relationship in such a case have no force, and that a
sister forgets to be a sister?
Now I know this to be her secret motive, (the more grating to her, as
her pride is concerned to make her disavow it), and can consider it
joined with her former envy, and as strengthened by a brother, who has
such an ascendant over the whole family; and whose interest (slave to
it as he always was) engaged him to ruin you with every one: both
possessed of the ears of all your family, and having it as much in
their power as in their will to misrepresent all you say, all you do;
such subject also as to the rencounter, and Lovelace's want of morals,
to expatiate upon: your whole family likewise avowedly attached to the
odious man by means of the captivating proposals he has made them;-- when I consider all these things, I am full of apprehensions for you. --O my dear, how will you be able to maintain your ground;--I am sure,
(alas! I am too sure) that they will subdue such a fine spirit as
yours, unused to opposition; and (tell it not in Gath) you must be
Mrs. Solmes!
Mean time, it is now easy, as you will observe, to guess from what
quarter the report I mentioned to you in one of my former, came, That
the younger sister has robbed the elder of her lover:* for Betty
whispered it, at the time she whispered the rest, that neither
Lovelace nor you had done honourably by her young mistress.--How
cruel, my dear, in you, to rob the poor Bella of the only lover she
only had!--At the instant too that she was priding herself, that now
at last she should have it in her power not only to gratify her own
susceptibilities, but to give an example to the flirts of her sex**
(my worship's self in her eye) how to govern their man with a silken
rein, and without a curb-bridle!
* Letter I. ** Letter II.
Upon the whole, I have now no doubt of their persevering in favour of
the despicable Solmes; and of their dependence upon the gentleness of
your temper, and the regard you have for their favour, and for your
own reputation. And now I am more than ever convinced of the
propriety of the advice I formerly gave you, to keep in your own hands
the estate bequeathed to you by your grandfather.--Had you done so, it
would have procured you at least an outward respect from your brother
and sister, which would have made them conceal the envy and ill-will
that now are bursting upon you from hearts so narrow.
I must harp a little more upon this string--Do not you observe, how
much your brother's influence has overtopped yours, since he has got
into fortunes so considerable, and since you have given some of them
an appetite to continue in themselves the possession of your estate,
unless you comply with their terms?
I know your dutiful, your laudable motives; and one would have
thought, that you might have trusted to a father who so dearly loved
you. But had you been actually in possession of that estate, and
living up to it, and upon it, (your youth protected from blighting
tongues by the company of your prudent Norton, as you had proposed,)
do you think that your brother, grudging it to you at the time as he
did, and looking upon it as his right as an only son, would have been
practising about it, and aiming at it? I told you some time ago, that
I thought your trials but proportioned to your prudence:* but you will
be more than woman, if you can extricate yourself with honour, having
such violent spirits and sordid minds in some, and such tyrannical and
despotic wills in others, to deal with. Indeed, all may be done, and
the world be taught further to admire you for your blind duty and
will-less resignation, if you can persuade yourself to be Mrs. Solmes.
* Letter I.
I am pleased with the instances you give me of Mr. Lovelace's
benevolence to his own tenants, and with his little gift to your
uncle's. Mrs. Fortescue allows him to be the best of landlords: I
might have told you that, had I thought it necessary to put you into
some little conceit of him. He has qualities, in short, that may make
him a tolerable creature on the other side of fifty: but God help the
poor woman to whose lot he shall fall till then! women, I should say,
perhaps; since he may break half-a-dozen hearts before that time.--But
to the point I was upon--Shall we not have reason to commend the
tenant's grateful honesty, if we are told, that with joy the poor man
called out your uncle, and on the spot paid him in part of his debt
those two guineas?--But what shall we say of that landlord, who,
though he knew the poor man to be quite destitute, could take it; and,
saying nothing while Mr. Lovelace staid, as soon as he was gone, tell
of it in praise of the poor fellow's honesty?--Were this so, and were
not that landlord related to my dearest friend, how should I despise
such a wretch?--But, perhaps, the story is aggravated. Covetous
people have every one's ill word: and so indeed they ought; because
they are only solicitous to keep that which they prefer to every one's
good one.--Covetous indeed would they be, who deserved neither, yet
expected both!
I long for your next letter. Continue to be as particular as
possible. I can think of no other subject but what relates to you and
to your affairs: for I am, and ever will be, most affectionately,
Your own, ANNA HOWE.